Empathy - Gift or Curse?

Have you ever asked yourself why you felt bad, too, when your best friend, husband, kids or your parents felt bad?

It could be that you are an empath.

This ability may enable you to go farther than you wish for: it can lead to the same pain the other person you identify with has got. You identify with him/her so well, that the “level” pain is spreading over to you, too.  And it could be that by taking over his/her pain you rid the other one of his/her pain.

Should this happen to you then you have to get rid of it immediately. Two reasons, why:

1.  IT IS NOT YOUR PAIN
2. THE LESSON IS NOT YOURS, EITHER

HOW can you get rid of this pain the fastest possible?

Distance – not necessarily local distance but emotional distance within yourself.

That does not mean that you cannot hug the person but that you understand: This is not me, this is not mine – therefore I don’t need it and it won’t serve me either.

Many “real” doctors are empaths. They feel  - WITH you but – and here is the point: not FOR you. With this ability they are able to help you better to cure yourself.

People cannot just give their pain away – ok – that could work, too but is not good at all. That would actually mean: you give it to someone else i.e. another person is having the pain you actually should learn from. With this you don’t only interrupt your path but also fiddle with your partner’s  (friend’s / relative’s – etc.) Sounds somehow weird? No, it is as is.

We all came here to learn something. Some books or teachings say even that you signed your contract before being born here.

Let’s say I believe in that. So I cannot give the experiences I am here for to someone else; I have to live them – not any other person should go through those but me, myself and I.

Now I am not talking about empathy – this is more about LIFE responsibility.

Empathy is a gift – you may be able to feel the opinion of the other person when you for example choose a gift or draw a picture etc. for him/her. You will understand the other person (almost) the way you understand yourself.

But never forget:  Take your own responsibility/ies.

Tip:  should you be in pain the best way to get over it is Meditation.  When you meditate you are able to detach yourself from your or the other person’s problem.

With this you will understand even more – because then you see /feel the problem/pain etc. double or plural: you feel from inside and from a distance – from outside – result: NEW solutions will prevail.

Empathy – well used is a tremendous gift, use it to understand the other(s) better. 

By doing so, you will master your life and understand yourself better which is actually the goal you are here for…